Navigating a Polarized World from a Holistic Perspective

By Hannah Tighe, Gestalt Life Coach

In the midst of the challenges we face collectively, I recognize the weight of the world's pain that presses on so many of our hearts. During these trying times, I extend my hand to you with an open heart, a symbol of solidarity, and a gentle reminder that you are not alone in your feelings. As someone who embraces the principles of Gestalt practice, I find solace in the idea that true well-being stems from profound connections with ourselves and each other, fostering equilibrium and harmony.

In a world often clouded by division and chaos, it can be overwhelming to navigate the layers of hurt and trauma that surface when we allow ourselves genuine contact and awareness. Yet, this process is not only helpful but crucial for our collective healing at this time.

In challenging moments, I often turn to what we call the Gestalt Contact and Awareness Cycle. This cycle empowers us to attune to our inner selves, align with our individual needs, and gain clarity on how best to support ourselves in times of divisiveness and chaos. 

Let's go through it together and then we can put it into practice.

Take a moment to contemplate the following part of the cycle: 

  1. Figure
    What is capturing your attention in the background - whether it's a news story, social media post, or someone expressing an opposing view.

  2. Energetic Formation Awareness Starts
    Notice the sensations and emotions emerging in your body - anger, stress, anxiety.

  3. What do I want or need to provide to myself in order to be supported? 
    Consider how much of this support you need and where you can find it.

  4. Movement
    Provide for yourself by asking what you need. For instance, if fear arises, remind yourself that it's okay to feel these emotions and reassure yourself that you won't abandon yourself. Take protective action to advocate for yourself.

  5. Receive
    Allow yourself to fully acknowledge and receive the support you've given yourself. Be present with your emotions until you feel supported in that moment.

  6. Integrate and Closure
    Notice how you're feeling and agree to integrate any insights for the day and the future.

Note: We may get stuck in various stages of this cycle. For example, being stuck in the energetic phase may lead to heightened anxiety, and not moving through the cycle could result in depression. If, however we allow ourselves to fully receive, we close the cycle and avoid repeated occurrences of depression or anxiety.

 

Practical: Taking this into the world

The question: In a world increasingly marked by polarization, how can we be present with someone, acknowledging their unique lens, experiences, identities, and trauma, without causing further harm?

This, indeed, is the heart of the matter. Recognizing that each of us carries diverse experiences and identities, some conversations may be genuinely painful. 

Before engaging, consider:

  1. Is the other person emotionally resourced enough for this conversation?

  2. Assess your own stress levels and emotional resilience.

  3. Can you genuinely listen with compassion and grace?

  4. Are you open to reevaluating preconceived notions for a deeper understanding?

  5. Can you see the person before you as someone connected to others in peril?

  6. Evaluate your body language and tone for openness and respect.

  7. Choose words that foster unity.

  8. Embrace acceptance, understanding that minds may not change, but meaningful dialogue is essential for mutual understanding and setting boundaries.

In this process, remember to:

  • Breathe deeply to calm your nervous system.

  • Acknowledge the difficulty of the conversation and offer yourself compassion.

  • Accept that changing minds may not be the goal; curiosity and understanding are.

  • Allow yourself breaks if needed, stepping out respectfully.

  • Engage in supportive practices afterward, prioritizing self-care.

I hope these reflections bring support and comfort during these challenging times, and I also, fully admit that I too am having a difficult time maintaining my balance as we navigate through these moments, so please, give yourself grace and compassion.   

If you need support at this time, please reach out. I am so honored to be able to support this community. We are here for each other. 

With warmth and compassion,

Hannah

P.S. If you would like to schedule an appointment with me or learn more about my work here is the link → Gestalt Coaching

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